Friday, August 21, 2009

Sextra: Fellas, the Sexy 6!

I came across this on Bossip and I decided to add my two cents.

Hey guys, it’s Friday, and how many of you will be chatting it up in front of an XBox, clutching a cold beer, talking about women and how they are never satisfied? Lots, right? Now let’s compare that number to the guys who will be cozied up in front of his flatscreen watching SportsCenter, clutching a cold beer AND his warm woman. Not many, right? At the end of the night, the XBoxers get nothing but their own hand service, while the other man gets to watch sports, drink beer AND get the good loving! Why? Because he’s taken the time to be a gentleman and, because of this, his lady could care less what he does in his spare time because when he all hers, she knows it without a doubt! It doesn’t take long guys, just some good old effort, time and attention! Besides, being a gentleman is sexy to a women, and will get you a permanent seat in her No.1 spot for the long run. A sexy body and face only go so far with a woman, but sexy ways will keep her open and loving you.

1.) Focus, Man – Fellas, put the cell phone down! One thing that is an immediate turn-off is when a man yammers on the phone with his boys during time that is supposed to spent with your lady! A woman’s time with her guy is supposed to be exclusive, period. After the time is spent, she’s good! But don’t giggle on the phone gossiping like girls with your homeboys, save it for when she’s not around, girlie gossip should be done alone. Note: Putting the phone on vibrate and constantly ignoring calls is worse than the chatter, and above all, a douche bag move.

Duh, this goes for EVERYONE including family members and best friends. You know we sometimes forget that they are people too. I personally see being in constant contact at all times as a sign on insecurity. It's almost like saying "I'm not interesting enough to carry a full conversation so I only 'do' sound bites (i.e. texts, tweets, and status updates) or it says "I don't care about anything you have to say."

2.) Be Handy – women are such the “I can do it myself” kind, but they really don’t want to. So instead of offering, “do you want me to come over and out your computer desk together?” Tell her, “Oh, so you got desk!? I’m going to come put it together for you, what time works for you?” She can’t say no, and if you finish with a “what you cooking?” You’re being a man and making an offer she can’t refuse. If she does, she’s just not feeling you, move on.

Yes! Thank You! and Amen. I expect this treatment it's like my litmus test. Cause if a guy really likes you he wouldn't want you to go through any type of strife. Putting together a desk is strife for me at least. I got a dresser from IKEA and that bitch took me hours to build and some of the pieces are still backward.

3.) Stay Informed – Fellas, it’s okay to put the joysticks down and read a book every now and again! Pay attention to what women are reading! For instance, nowadays the Steve Harvey bestseller is a conversation piece for so many – the woman you’re taking out could be applying the knowledge from the book to you, and could potentially crush you at your own man game! No bueno. Imagine if you’ve both read the same book? Now, not only are you cute and funny, you’re smart too! Best to be on the same page, literally.

I ain't read that Steve Harvey joint, cause I believe I know everything in there, but reading is sexy. In fact I like when a guy knows a lot about something I don't know, like he's an expert in the crisis in Darfur or something. I like to read too, it gives you something to talk about otherwise you'd keep having the same conversations. I also think watching the news counts.

4.) Possess Knightliness – every woman wants that knight in shining armor. Not that you have to be this every day, but at least possess the capacity to do so from time to time. For example, after your date walk her to her car, open the door, close it, kiss her cheek through the window and wait for her to pull off before you make your exit. She’ll feel safe and flattered that you thought enough of her to make sure she’s in one piece when you left her. Give her a call about an hour later to make sure she’s in a safe space and let her know you enjoyed her company and can’t wait to see her again. Be a gentleman to your fullest potential, it never fails!

Bump that not every day thing. This kind of behavior should happen on the regular, I mean daily. It's a sign on respect.

5.) Give More Than a 1 Word Reply – regardless of if its a text, email or face to face conversation, get involved! Again, it doesn’t have to be everyday or every conversation. Sometimes it takes a little more than a “yeah,” “uh-huh” or “cool” to soothe a woman’s need to be heard. Give more attention to the conversation topics that are especially important to her and be honest and compassionate. She’ll remember these times and know it’s within you to be caring.

One word answers show that you are listening and that you care period.

6.) Don’t Be a “Yes” Man – it’s okay to give your lady a good firm “no,” and disagree from time to time. Women only like a pushover for so long and she’ll eventually get bored with your compliance, if you’re the type to concede to avoid an argument. It’s healthy for you to tell her “no”occasionally. Although she may not like it, she’ll respect your manhood and fall back. Disagreeing won’t kill her, but will it piss her smooth off? Sure. But she’ll get over it and, once again, respect your manhood and you standing your ground.

This is hot. I luv a man's man. Why would I want a big kid? Plus, I wanna feel safe in his decisions and know that he can make decisions. A dude that would let little ole me walk all over him has a serious lack of confidence and that ain't sexy.